Aright… bring it in, listen up.
Let’s say you stayed out too late the night before the game.
Let’s say you didn’t do your homework, you didn’t study and you flunked a test that you needed to pass to make the grade to;
A. Stay in school
B. Remain eligible to participate in your sport.
Let’s say you skipped practice, you said something ugly to your coach, you reacted poorly to someone.. you bullied someone, your being bullied, you got in a fight, you don’t want to fight but don’t know a way around it?
This is a short list of things we experience or have heard about, or we have seen others experience.
We face our mistakes often. We face other’s mistakes often.
We face circumstances we cannot control.
We face the seemingly impossible.
This is very important…
ALL of these things happen outside our sport… Yet, these things greatly effect our performance in our sport.
Here’s the Chalk Talk question…
Who do you talk to about these things?
Hopefully your parents.
Hopefully your Coach.
But.. if we are facing the one that we fear disappointing the most… we often avoid them at all cost for that very fear… disappointing them. Yet, we still have the issue floating around in our head’s or heart’s or both!
Who do you talk too?
Listen and do!
Find a teacher, a friend, a parent, a pastor, a librarian, a fireman, officer, military member… Find a Coach. Do not let things stir in your heart and mind too long without TALKING about it.
If you don’t feel you can approach your parent(s), coach(s)… at least let them know you want to talk to someone about ‘something’, be honest and let them know that it might not make sense them… but, you fear talking to them about it. Ask them to try to understand.
Maybe ask; “Can you help me find someone that I can talk too”? They will most likely push for a topic.
PARENTS… please try to understand what is at stake if your child/athlete comes to you with this request.
Give them permission to freely ask you to ask someone for help… help them find someone you think might be able to listen to them without the judgement they probable fear the most… yours.
Here at The Chalk Talk Blog we talk.. and we use chalk to start the conversation.
VERY IMPORTANT… We also Listen. (a topic for future blog post)
Sometimes we see very young children do the same with crayon’s. They try to communicate thing’s they might not understand, or they are afraid to say, or don’t know how to say?
Here we start with the situation at hand… the here and now. We live in realville.
We identify and talk about what is, was, why and what might be.
We take a time out and create a game plan and then we practice it and then we implement it.
All the while choosing right attitude and staying as positive as we can.
Faith, Hope and Love. We cling to these.
Not because you must, but because you are willing.