Parents share with your kids, coaches share with the parents of players , players share with your coaches and parents.
You are a player on a team.
You have a Coach.
You like this Coach. You respect this Coach.
You believe in what this Coach is teaching you, directing you to do… where to be and what to do in specific situations and circumstances that are ever rapidly changing.
You trust this Coach to provide you with a path… a path that you will willingly follow.
This is the time to Follow a Path.
You are a player on a team.
Your Coach let’s you and your teammates know that you are about to do a drill that everyone hates. You know the drill… you all know what the coach calls it, and you also know what you and your teammates have nicknamed it.
The dread hangs over the gym, the field, the practice as everyone feels the weight of what they know is to come.
Everyone anticipates the inevitable horrible next seconds, minutes or longer. You and your teammates are hoping for intervention, a miracle… maybe… just maybe your Coach will change their mind?
Then the time comes. It’s real, and it’s going to happen.
No one wants to do this. And no one seems to want to go first.
No one jumps anxiously to be first to start the dreaded drill that is to you all.. nothing short of torture.
It may be in the heat of day and it usually takes place after everyone has already given their ALL. Everyone is spent. Everyone has nothing left.
Why even do this drill? Why now?
This is the time to Make a Path.
Why not be the first to challenge and conquer every doubt, dread, and self loathing feeling you have!
Be the first to say;
“I’ll go”! “I’ll do it”! “Follow Me”! “I will gut this out and I will show my coach, my teammates and Myself… It can be done, It will be done, and with a great attitude, and then followed up by encouraging all other’s behind me”.
Follow a Path – Isaiah 30:31
Make a Path – Philippians 4:13
Not because you must, but because you are willing
Okay… bring it in. Let’s talk about real life stuff here for a second. Let’s try to keep in mind that what we Coach… our players apply at home, at school… and of-course, LIFE.
Something that we all try to encourage everyone to have is; empathy. Basically we want everyone to understand and be aware of someone else’s situation and circumstances, or maybe more directly put; we don’t want to think of only ourselves.
: the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner; also : the capacity for this
Now that we have a very clear understanding of empathy… we can all say having empathy is a good thing, right?
This brings me to the question asked in the Chalk Talk Facebook Group (to join click here)
Is flopping coached?
If you are not aware of what flopping is… it is the action of deliberately falling or stumbling in order to give the appearance of having been fouled by an opponent. It’s basically a player over… way-way over exaggerating a foul, or a fake foul, appearing to have been injured, or worse!
I have the utmost respect for all athletes. Even the folks I see walking daily that are just trying to lose 2 pounds, or 1oo pounds! I love to see people exercise, move, work out and participate in ALL sports! I have empathy for those that might find it hard/difficult, but yet they are out there doing it! Bravo!
I have never played Soccer as an organized sport. I always loved playing it in the back yard or playground. I have been around enough athletes to recognize the dedication, skill, talent and fitness level required for this great game.
Still, there are many that only know soccer by flopping.. and many don’t seem to understand or have empathy for the players that seem to be dying rolling around on the field… when they seem to have been barely touched?
Soccer is not alone in the world of flopping… flopping exist in all of sports, and it seems to be gaining in NBA Basketball… Yes or No?
Is this something that is being taught/coached? The answer is Yes. (NPR article)
So, are youth being coached to ‘fake’ or ‘lie’?
All of this being said; I am only aware of one sport that has a rule against flopping and a penalty for diving or embellishment.
Rule No. 64.1 for Diving / Embellishment – Any player who blatantly dives,
embellishes a fall or a reaction, or who feigns an injury shall be
penalized with a minor penalty under this rule.
We see real injuries in Hockey where the player doesn’t roll around, or flop on the ice for several spins, or flop’s… most of the time they keep skating? And, I for one… have a great deal of empathy for them.
So…Yes to Rule No. 64.1
As a coach, this rule helps teach player’s that faking an injury will not be tolerated, and is not a behavior to be desired. This rule helps explain the difference between NHL Hockey and The WWE. It helps explain the difference in needing a band aid or an ambulance.
The model of adult athletes faking anything cannot be something we encourage our youth to apply in their sport… and certainly not in their relationships at home, their job’s, marriage’s… and LIFE.
I still remember mom’s “Rule No. 64.1″. She told me the story about The Boy Who Cried Wolf. Worked or me.
Not because you must, but because you are willing
First, we should recognize that we must understand it’s not a good idea to put ourselves… first.
Most of us, at some point in our lives, have heard the following words, or the phrase that we may or may not know originate from one of two Bible verse’s…
Matthew 19:30 that says; “But many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first.“
Matthew 20:16 that says; “So the last will be first, and the first will be last.”
A very strange concept… especially for an athlete… right?
These verses have nothing to do with where you might finish in a race, or winning or losing in any type of athletic competition.
Maybe you are reading these words for the first time? Or maybe you remember hearing someone read them or say them to you?
Did you totally reject the concept and quickly label this concept as ridiculous and totally unfair!
Why would you not want to be First in everything?
Why would you not want to be first in a race, a board game, a football, basketball, soccer, or baseball game?
Who would anyone think ‘last’ would be a desired goal? Who in the world would want to finish last?
Actually… if one really looks at these verses in context; one would come to realize these words have nothing to do with being first in a race, winning a game, or being first in any sort of athletic competition. First vs. Last has to do with The Big Race… (learn more here!)
Believe it or not… First vs. Last has nothing to do with this Chalk Talk blog post.
So, why the title; “First, Me First”.
Well.. to explain that I must bre/ak a BIG RULE of mine right off the bat here in the first Blog Post.
What rule is it?
Never talk about ME!
For this first blog post… It is important for you to know that everything shared here… I must apply to ME First!
After all WE are in this together.
So, I or Me…. must first act on these thoughts I share here in these blog’s.
I must walk alongside what I am led to write here and keep pace in putting them into practice in my daily walk.
I must think on these words and how they will certainly apply in my world, my life.
I must live them first.
We should all be challenging each other constantly and forever we should hold one another accountable.
We should always strive for wisdom, putting wisdom into motion and trusting it to lead us to doing the next right thing. And, when we hit that mark… when we ring that bell and we win the round… We should rejoice with great joy and encourage one another to continue training in wisdom!
And when we fall… we should get back up… help each other up! We should be very careful not to judge one another. We should be accountable brave enough to take our lumps, and get back to training and learning, trying to get it right. You know, maybe get a little “Chalk Talk”!
Know this; You … Me… We are all fearfully and wonderfully made! (Psalm 139:14)
Fearful and Wonderful.
No matter what, Don’t forget that… Fearful and Wonderful. Even when we fall.
So… Here WE go!
First, me first and I could only hope to finish Last (read more here about first and last)
Not because you must, but because you are willing.
Bring it in.
Chalk Talk’s are Back!!!
Alright everybody listen up.
Bring it in.
It’s time for a Chalk Talk.
Some of you may be return visitors? You may or may not remember the last series of blog’s I posted that inspired my book “Chalk Talk” Vol.1?
Regardless of which category you fall into, I am glad you have found your way here to this right now moment… to this brand new series of Chalk Talk’s .
I do not expect everyone to be familiar with my life: performing, music, plays and books, or what I have been doing for the past three plus years that that had me traveling across North America with my big wonderful road family, watching history being made and meeting the most incredible people!
I always feel blessed to share this amazing wonderful life that continues daily to sit me in the front seat of a ride that I would have never dreamed possible.
And… although this ride has not ever been exempt from a back trail complete with both victories and defeats, it has left me in awe of the most amazing experiences in the world’s of Athletics, Music and Entertainment.
All of this leading me to look back asking why me? A huge part of this answer is understanding the great value and need of a mentor, an advocate, or maybe more commonly put… a Coach.
A coach with years of experience producing what the Bible says is to be sought as a great treasure; wisdom. Wisdom allowing a coach the ability to observe and understand each of player… using experience to prepare, guide, direct, identify, motivate, teach, push, heal, listen, encourage and even demand each player they coach to become and to be their very best in any game type situation, especially LIFE!
I have benefited my entire life from the wisdom of my coaches… I still do and always will. I thank God for each of them.
I can always count on my mentor’s and Coaches to take a time out… call me over for a Chalk Talk. A life pause… taking a much needed moment to just slow things down, to just take a breath. Other times… to give me a much needed swift kick in the rear. No matter which… they are always setting a course, identifying a clear direction getting me back in the game.
So, Suit Up and Scoot Up!
Get ready to think, practice and move… so you can be your best!
We need you!
Chalk Talk’s are Back!
“Not because you must, but because you are willing”
Podcast coming June 25th!